What Are The Negative Effects of Venting?

Venting – the act of expressing strong emotions, usually anger or frustration, often loudly and openly – is often seen as harmless, or even healthy. We may feel a sense of relief after we “let it all out” by venting. However, research shows that the negative effects of venting actually outweigh any short-term benefits. Indulging in frequent venting can negatively impact relationships, mental health, and even physical health.

Strains Relationships

Venting anger or frustration, especially loudly, can deeply affect relationships with friends, family members, colleagues and partners who are on the receiving end. Often, the receiver of the venting feels blamed, attacked or hurt after being subject to negative emotions and criticism, even if it was not directly aimed at them. This can breed resentment on their end, and damage emotional intimacy between both people. Venting strains connections as receivers withdraw to protect themselves emotionally.

Additionally, venting generally does not resolve the root issue or lead to solutions. The habit of frequent venting creates an overall atmosphere of negativity that pushes others away and deteriorates relationships over time. People may avoid or drift away from relationships with habitual venters due to the drama and toxicity.

Increases Negative Thinking

Venting has been shown to actually intensify feelings of anger and distress in the short term. A 2009 study measured blood pressure, heart rate and self-reported emotional states before and after participants focused on a stressful event in their lives and vented their emotions about it aloud. Surprisingly, venting increased blood pressure and heart rate, as well as self-reports of emotional distress. Dwelling intensely on negative emotions amplifies them rather than clearing them.

Additionally, venting tends to keep the brain stuck in cycles of distressing thoughts, making it more difficult to see situations clearly or move into healthier mindsets. If the habit continues, the more we vent, the more wired our brain may become to focus excessively on negative emotions. This can contribute to the development of mood disorders like anxiety or depression.

Impacts Physical Health

Multiple studies have found correlations between the tendency to vent anger and having worse physical health, especially cardiovascular health. A 2004 study from the University of Michigan Health System found that young men who vented their anger frequently had double the risk of suffering from hypertension and heart disease by middle age. Additionally, research has linked the regular expression of intense emotions like anger and hostility to higher inflammation levels in the body – inflammation is connected to issues like heart disease, diabetes and neurodegenerative disease.

Researchers hypothesize that rumination and emotional agitation flooding stress hormones through the body may be the reason venting emotion contributes to cardiovascular risks. The strain venting anger puts on relationships likely does not help either – weak social ties are also considered contributory to poor health. Overall, venting as an emotional coping mechanism appears to take a significant physical toll long-term.

Healthier Communication Alternatives

If venting is ineffective for resolving upsets and contributes to more harm than good, what alternatives do we have when faced with difficult emotions? Communicating feelings in a balanced, thoughtful manner protects relationships and mental health, while reducing physical strain. Some guidelines include:

  • Waiting until initial intense emotions pass to approach the conversation calmly. Taking space to process inwardly first prevents dumping emotionally-charged complaints onto others.
  • Using “I feel…” statements to own your emotions rather than accusatory “you” statements which blame others. Speaking for yourself only avoids stirring defensiveness.
  • Identifying the root issues and unmet needs causing emotional distress, and asking for what you need without making demands.
  • Allowing others to reflect back what they heard you say so that they fully understand you before responding, to prevent miscommunications.
  • Making requests for reasonable behavioral changes in non-combative ways. Working as a team to problem solve.
  • Considering your own role openly and fairly when conflict arises, not just pointing fingers outwards.

Following these basic principles can help transform talking through difficulties into thoughtful, constructive conversations focused on empathy and mutual understanding. This reduces future conflicts and brings people closer together, while avoiding exaggerated emotional spikes that venting produces. With some effort, we can break unhealthy communication patterns that hamper our relationships and well-being over time.