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What Can I Do to Help My Child’s Anxiety?

Seeing your child struggle with anxiety can be heartbreaking for any parent. While some nervousness is normal, excessive, ongoing anxiety causes distress and interferes with daily childhood activities. The good news is there are effective strategies parents can use to help relieve their child’s anxiety symptoms and build long-term coping skills.

Understand the Causes

To properly help your anxious child, it’s important to understand potential factors contributing to their anxiety:

  • Genetics – Anxiety disorders like OCD, phobias, and panic disorders often run in families.
  • Brain chemistry – Imbalances in neurotransmitters like serotonin and dopamine are linked to anxiety.
  • Trauma – Experiencing something traumatic can trigger anxiety for some children.
  • Major life changes – Divorce, moves, new schools, COVID-19 – transitions are stressful.
  • Mental health conditions – Anxiety is common alongside ADHD, autism spectrum disorder, and depression.
  • Learned behavior – Kids can develop thought patterns, avoidance, and coping habits that fuel anxiety over time.
  • Environment – High-pressure home or school environments perpetuate anxiety.

Knowing the underlying cause helps you determine if your child needs professional support like therapy in conjunction with at-home strategies.

Provide a Safe Space

A critical first step is ensuring your home environment feels stable, supportive, and emotionally safe for your anxious child. Strategies include:

  • Maintain routines – Regular schedules for meals, activities, and bedtimes are calming.
  • Limit chaos – Reduce noise and stimulation that could feel over-arousing.
  • Encourage expression – Allow your child to articulate their feelings openly without judgment.
  • Adapt expectations – Don’t set them up for failure by demanding too much too fast.
  • Model calmness – Regulate your own emotions and speak gently. Kids mirror parents.
  • Allow comfort items – Fidget toys, stuffed animals, and cozy blankets can ease anxiety.
  • Offer private space – Give opportunities to retreat when feeling anxious and overwhelmed.

Creating a sense of safety at home helps prevent anxiety from spiraling in the moment and serves as a secure foundation for building coping skills.

Teach Coping Strategies

Equip your child with go-to coping strategies to implement when anxiety surfaces:

  • Deep breathing – Have them practice slowing their breath and breathing from the belly.
  • Progressive muscle relaxation – Guide them through tensing and releasing muscle groups to reduce tension.
  • Guided imagery –Prompt them to picture a favorite calm scene like the beach. Focus senses on the details.
  • Mindfulness – Work on redirecting thoughts to the present using grounding techniques.
  • Physical activity – Exercising helps burn off anxious energy.
  • Creative play – Arts, music, drama provide therapeutic release.
  • Positive self-talk – Help reframe worries into empowering statements.
  • Healthy habits – Make sure they get enough sleep, nutrition and physical activity.

Practice these when your child is calm so the techniques are familiar when needed most. Praise them for proper use.

Address Fears Compassionately

When your child shares specific worries, address them without reinforcing irrational fears.

  • Listen sincerely – Don’t dismiss concerns as silly. Allow them to feel heard.
  • Empathize – “I know that scares you. I’d feel nervous too.”
  • Gather details – Ask questions to understand where fears originate.
  • Put in perspective – “Unlikely things feel scarier. But the chance of that happening is very low.”
  • Problem-solve – Brainstorm practical ways to resolve situations that provoke anxiety.
  • Replace alarmist words – Say “concerned” instead of “terrified.”
  • Reinforce realistic thinking – Don’t empower illogical worst-case scenarios.
  • Offer reassurance – Remind them of tools, supports and their own past resilience.

The goal is validating emotions while guiding more balanced thinking.

Encourage Facing Fears

Avoiding anxiety triggers often provides short-term relief but reinforces fears longer term. Help your child incrementally confront worries through:

  • Listing fears – Have them rank triggers from least to most scary.
  • Starting small – Begin with lower-ranked items and work up to bigger challenges.
  • Exposing gradually – Increase amounts of exposure in multiple sessions over time.
  • Trying exposure therapy – This guided method helps kids face fears in a therapeutic setting.
  • Reframing anxiety – Help them view physical signs of anxiety as readiness, not danger.
  • Celebrating victories – Praise any steps forward to motivate continued progress.
  • Not forcing – Move at their pace and stop if truly distressed.
  • Being a role model – Show how you face your own fears and anxieties.

Facing anxiety-provoking situations in small manageable steps teaches kids the situations are safe and their anxiety will decrease.

Know When to Seek Help

If your child’s anxiety persists and interferes with their functioning despite your efforts, it’s appropriate to consult a professional. Seek support if anxiety causes:

  • Distress and suffering
  • Avoidance of school, friends, or activities
  • Problems concentrating impacting school performance
  • Sleep issues or physical symptoms
  • Depression or isolation
  • Severe panic attacks
  • Thoughts of self-harm

Speak to your pediatrician first. They can refer you to therapists who specialize in childhood anxiety disorders and recommend evidence-based treatment plans. With professional support and continued efforts at home, your child can overcome anxiety.

Be an Anxiety Ally

Parenting an anxious child requires much patience, compassion and education. But by creating an emotionally safe environment, teaching coping skills, addressing worries rationally, encouraging facing fears, and seeking help when needed, you equip your child to manage anxiety symptoms successfully long-term. Remain a consistent source of support and your unconditional love provides the secure base your child needs to thrive.